Sleep Training 101; 4-6 Months

Hey friends! If you're curious on sleep training methods from 0-3 months click here to read up on that! 

As for us, we have progressed! We hit the 6 month mark this week so I guess I'm writing this a couple of days early but OH WELL

These couple of months were rough. Right when you think you're getting to know your baby, and their exact next move - BAM they change. Seriously. They change all the freaking time and they don't do it on purpose but DAMN I need a break! (excuse my language? Is damn bad? idk????? help??) ANYWAYS We have prevailed friends! And we made it through another sleep deprived couple of months! I keep telling myself dang I can't wait for our next baby (yes I can) because I feel like I'm going to be totally prepared with my online journal aka my blog. (I know this is unrealistic haha - let me dream okay!)

I had a sleep training epiphany though, last week. I realized that at different points of her life, different sleep training methods work...... differently.

Who woulda thunk it?

SOOOOOOO the first 3 months of her life we were ALL about swaddling, and it totally worked for us! But now that she has a better grasp on rolling over, it's not in our routine any long. Ttem permanence & cry it out totally did the trick for us from 3-4 months, but it just hasn't been working for us as well lately. So last week, when I was convinced I would never sleep again, I did some research.

At 3 AM. My favorite time at night if y'all didn't already know. 

I basically found that at this point in her life, a similar but totally different (are you still following?) method is working for her. I'm definitely not opposed to doing crying it out again at a different point of her life, but right now this other method is working best for us.

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sleep training your baby

Basically, our nightly routine (and nap time routine - consistency is key, besides bath time, of course) goes something like this :

7 PM Bath time

I try to make sure I don't do bath time any earlier, because then it throws off her entire routine. So we do bath time, which honestly takes us a solid 10 minutes, because who knew bathing a small human was super quick, Less surface to cover I suppose! After bath time, we do our normal baby lotion massage, and sometimes read a bedtime story depending if she's really fussy or not. She is different every single day, but also the same. I know, I sound insane. 

Jammie switch up!

If you read my last sleep training post, we weren't dressing her in those warm footie pajamas everybody swears by, because she was swaddled and we didn't want her to overheat! Well you guessed it! We are now in the footie pajama stage. I still stick to my word on 0-3 months about not doing it, but like I said before - she changes constantly! Since we are no longer swaddling, we have now switched to those warm and fuzzy footie pajamas! Not only are they absolutely adorable, but they keep my girl nice and warm at night (since we are not letting her sleep with blankets because of the risk it raises for suffocation and SIDS). 


Nurse

For us anyways. If you're formula feeding, this is where your bedtime (or nap time) bottle would come in. So we sit in our rocking chair, while I nurse. I usually turn her bedroom light off and nurse in the dark to set the calm atmosphere vibes. 

Independent crib time

I used to be pretty huge on rocking her to sleep, and then putting her in her crib and tip toeing to sleep, but more often than not she would wake before I could even leave the room. I thought she was regressing or maybe her "startle reflex" wasn't quite gone yet. Turns out, she just wanted to self soothe and be left alone. Since she can now understand item permanence and knows when I am no longer there, I talk to her. I know she doesn't understand exactly what I'm saying with my words, but she can sense my emotions and the different tones in my voice. So I coo at her, and turn her mobile on, and she smiles and coos back. Then I tell her that I'll be back to check on her soon. I quietly escape to our room, and watch her on the baby monitor. She continues to coo and play with her pacifier, as well as puts the pacifier in her mouth on her own when she wants to. Most nights, I go in her room about 3 times, just to let her know I am there and I am checking up on her. Then I tell her again each time that I will be right back in a calm happy manner. Make sure you are taking lots of deep breaths - even if this takes forever! Remaining calm is huge! 

Now, that being said - she does have bad nights when we try to do this. Where I leave the room, and she screams at the top of her lungs. In this case, I kind of let her cry it out. BUT by cry it out, I mean I let her cry and when she stops for a moment, I rush right in. I am trying to basically "reward" her for not crying. Does that sound terrible? I feel like it does - but it really works! These nights are far and few between and I feel like it's because she knows that if she doesn't cry and scream that I will be more likely to come in. Maybe I'm crazy who knows. But it's working. And usually, after about 3 times in and out of her room, she falls asleep on her own. I mean out of nowhere passes out, and doesn't wake up for 3 - 4 hours. (she still eats a lot throughout the night - we are working on that!) When she does wake up, I nurse her, she passes out, I put her down, and that's all.

Now, if you're just tip-toeing into crib transitioning, I suggest doing the 3-5-7-10 minute method. Put the baby down in their crib, leave for 3 minutes. Go back, soothe them, lay them down, repeat, but this time for 5 minutes. Then 7, and finally 10 minutes. The hope is that after that 10 minute mark they will be asleep! 

Remember that attitude is everything!

If you remain calm, and tell yourself this is something you can do - then you totally can do it! Babies can 100% sense our anxieties & our stress, so once we calm down, they tend to as well!

Back to bed for mama.  AHHHHHHHH

 

Final thoughts

 

  • Reward not crying
  • Dress in warm footie pajamas
  • Self soothing in the crib
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    This is what's working for us right now, but I'm sure it will change for 7-10 months!

     

    Happy sleeping!

     

    Xo

    -MMM

     

    CHOOSE YOU : Self Care For The New Mom + Self Care Ideas

    As a new mom, it's so hard to find time for yourself. I honestly give credit to every mom with a full time job hustling out there, because I can't find time to do anything, let alone work 40 hours a week. I can only imagine how incredibly difficult it must be for them to find time to treat themselves! This is not an optional thing, it is a necessity to survive motherhood! When I say "Choose you" I obviously don't mean to necessarily choose yourself over others, especially your family, but I do mean that occasionally you to need to CHOOSE to take care of YOU, too.

    * Side note : this is actually a necessity for EVERY human out there, but especially mamas! * 

    #TreatYoSelf

     

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    SELF CARE FOR MOMS

    There are so many countless things you have to worry about as a new mom, that treating yourself definitely gets put to the back burner WAAAAAYYYY too often, (Don't even want to discuss how long I have gone without a haircut). But we HAVE to find time to do it! This weekend, thanks to my long time friend Kara, I was able to help her as a hair model and get an amazing and fresh new hair style! Something like this is just life changing! I have not given my hair any love in probably two years. No exaggeration - and that is just awful. It really got me thinking on how much more often I need to be doing this for myself. Here's my before shot.

    Wish I could describe my fancy new hairdo in cosmetology terms, but basically she took trash and made it into a masterpiece and I just cannot figure out how she does it. She does all of my friends' hair, and everytime I think she can't get any better - she does. Okay enough of my girl crush on Kara, here are the afters!

    Annnnnnd a side by side Before and After... for dramatic effect, duh.

    I feel like an entirely new person! You can follow Kara's hair journey as a stylist here ! And if you're a local (or even visiting) the Treasure Coast of FL give Calvetti a call and book with Kara ASAP!

    I honestly felt SO good after this haircut, that Matt & I ended up planning a last minute date night to get dressed (semi) nicely and have a quiet meal together (at Moe's LOL)  followed by a movie. It was the greatest domino affect and that is exactly what I'm talking about today y'all.

    SOMETHING LIKE A FRESH HAIRCUT CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE AND IF NOT THAT, AT LEAST YOUR DAY. 

    We are so worried about making sure our husbands are taken care of, and their laundry is done, and they have a meal to come home to, and making sure the baby is dry, fed, happy, the dog is protected from fleas, and oh wait you have to pay 3 bills and sit on the phone with the cable company for an hour today, and oh no your husband lost his wallet for the 12th time this week and you need to find it (true story, actually happened while I was in the chair LOL) and now your lawn mower is broken so you live in a jungle, etc! (I know that was the worst run-on sentence) But that's my point! We have to STOP putting ourselves on the back burner. I went Into this Monday morning feeling READY for the week, and it's because I did a couple of things this weekend to take care of myself.

    Here are a couple of self care ideas you can do that are simple, quick, and affordable. Even if you  can't possibly find the time to get away for a couple of hours, this self care plans are pretty close!

    self care

    1. GET A HAIRCUT

    What Kara did for me was definitely more than just a haircut and took more time than just your average haircut would - but I needed it. If you don't have time for something like this, I still suggest at least getting your run of the mill haircut/trim/whatever it is you do. Sitting in that chair, not having anything to do with my hands for more than 20 minutes was indescribable. It DEFINITELY took time to get used to, but once I was adjusted it was SO NICE to relax. *Bonus* If you get your hair washed when they cut it, that's prob one of my favorite things in the world. It's the little things people!

    2. TAKE A HOT SHOWER

    LOL I know this should be a must no matter what, but once you're a mom this is literally something you have to work to achieve and that's rough. Give your baby to your hubby, mom, significant other, whatever and take a hot shower. I SWEAR by this method. Whenever I am overwhelmed and feel like I need a break, but know that it's not in the cards anytime soon, I take a super hot and steamy shower. I don't know what it is about steam that just completely calms me down but it works. I sit there and just breathe until I feel ready to clean myself and start fresh. Yes - I literally SIT in the shower sometimes. Don't knock it until ya try it, okay! Sometimes I will do this mid day, and when I get out I feel so refreshed and motivated to finish whatever is at hand that day. Sometimes we need that mid day pick me up! 

    3. PAINT YOUR NAILS

    Or the longer alternative, get them done. While your babe is napping in the other room (being watched via monitor of course) treat yourself to that cheap nail polish home manicure girl! I know this sounds silly, or like you can do a million other things during nap time. I know how hard it is to try getting so much done in and hour or two period without a baby in your arms. But fresh paint is another thing that makes me feel like I semi have my life together.

    Sometimes taking care of yourself can be something as little as putting on some lipstick and dressing nicely, and whatever it may be just do it. Do it for yourself, because it's not just a physical type thing, its mental too. And if you don't, you will probably eventually have a mental breakdown and be overwhelmed from doing so much for others and never taking care of yourself - mentally and physically.

     

    CHOOSE YOU, MAMA'S! YOU DESERVE IT!

    I love chatting about this stuff, so if you ever feel like you need more suggestions or help in this area of your life please, just contact me, I'd be so happy to help!

    Xo

    -MMM

     

     

    Hiya!

    So here I am… a girl with a dream right? This past year I am so utterly lost. But here I am - tryin’ to find my passion and what not! My little girl, Abigail was brought into this crazy mess we call “the world” this year, and that has simply just made life the best and craziest time so far — and i’m only 12 weeks in! So one day (aka multiple days, and constantly battling and going back and forth) I decided - what the heck! Start a blog they said, it will be fun, they said! Mimosa Monday mom is just that - Startin’ on a Monday, postin’ every Monday, and drinkin’ mimosas whenever I can! ( aka not just on mondays, but also not excessively bc LOL I’M A MOM NOW!) This is a place for me to open up about my life and hopefully make you feel a little less crazy about yours. So welcome to this hot mess express that is my world! First of all - let’s get one thing straight; This is NOT a place for judgement. Take that bologna to Facebook! If you feel that my opinion is different than yours, that’s cool! But you’re wrong! (Kidding of course) I value all of your opinions! My mother once told me that children do NOT come with instruction manuals and man, aint that the truth!  SO PLEASE - tell me if i’m about to like, I don’t know, unintentionally poison my child or something because I mean - that’s helpful! But do NOT make me feel like a moron. Another great quote I love is “Educate me - Do not belittle me”. 

     

    I hope you enjoy hearing about my life, and hopeful I can help a few mommas along their journey!

     

    Xo

    -MMM